Enemies of Growth: Ego vs Confidence

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There’s a fine line between confidence as a leader and having a large ego. Ego and pride go hand in hand, while confidence is often associated with a clear vision.

Ego and pride go hand in hand, while confidence is often associated with a clear vision. Click To Tweet

Sometimes we mistake ego with confidence. If we truly believe we can do everything well on our own — that’s just how confident we are in ourselves!

But ego, not confidence, often leads to isolation. Most people aren’t excited to work with someone who thinks they know it all, and someone who thinks they know it all doesn’t make an effort to work with those people either.

But before I tell you how to combat the first enemy of our series, it’s important to understand whether or not you’re leading with confidence … or with ego. Be honest with yourself as you self-evaluate. (more…)

Meet the Enemies of Growth

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A key practice in leadership development is being able to own up to mistakes. In an effort to “practice what I preach,” I want to own up to a minor blunder in our editorial calendar.

Last week’s “Ego” post was the first post of a series we never actually introduced. We were supposed to start the series with the introduction below, but the two posts got switched around. How fitting that this mistake is centered around a post all about pride, huh?

Because of this, we’re restarting the series the way it was intended. Starting with “Meeting the Enemies of Growth.”

Thank you for your patience and understanding!

Duke

While personal growth drives the heart of success, whatever “success” might look like for you, there are a few key things that could be holding you back. 

The cool thing about personal growth is just that — it’s personal. You have the ability to work on your own growth, at your own pace, in whatever season of life you may be in. Some seasons require more growth than others.

But, the enemies of growth work the same way; these enemies are things you can choose to control … or choose not to control. Different from outside circumstances or other people, enemies of growth are things within you (and you only) that can often go unchecked you aren’t intentional.

Sometimes we can be our own worst enemy when it comes to achieving a new level of personal improvement. That’s why it’s important to recognize the possible roadblocks that could keep you from seeing the results you desire on your journey towards growth.

If you’ve been following me for a while, this all may sound familiar. That’s because last year I wrote a blog post about the 5 Enemies of Growth. In that post, I gave you a rundown of the five enemies with a brief explanation of what each of them were; but this time, I want to go a step further and help you identify these enemies in your own life, and then create an action plan to help you defeat them. (more…)

Unconventional Ways to Fix Your Focus

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A Harvard study found that people spend almost half of their day with a wandering mind; that means focusing on something other than what they’re currently supposed to be doing.

Distractions are detrimental to your productivity, and make it easier to feel overwhelmed by the tasks sitting in front of you. But if you suffer from a lack of focus, don’t lose hope!

I’ve written blog posts about distractions before with practical ways to rid yourself of them, most of which involve putting down your cell phone.  According to the article, The 6-Step Process to Train Your Brain to Focus, there are a few other ways to stay focused — some you may not have thought about before: (more…)

The Re-Engagement Process: How to Recover Productivity

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It’s flu season, which means it’s not uncommon to have people missing work due to unforeseen sickness. This month, my content manager McKenzie missed work for three days for that exact reason.

From a boss’ perspective, it can be very frustrating. Unlike vacation days, which are set farther in advance and are readily prepared for, sickness usually comes unexpectedly and can set off an entire team, even an organization!

We’re a small team here, so when someone is out, we feel it. McKenzie has a huge role in our organization, so her absence wasn’t easy.

And while the boss feels frustrated, the employee feels guilty for leaving their boss hanging. They can’t help that they’re sick — something that’s understood on both sides — but it doesn’t make the situation any less inconvenient.

So, how do you re-engage after being out of work for several days? And if you’re the boss, how do you create a space for positive re-engagement on your team?

Your reaction to the unexpected will be dependent on your willingness to (strategically) roll with the punches.

Here are some things we discovered will help alleviate re-engagement stress: (more…)

3 Ways to Get More Done: Avoiding Distractions

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Sometimes it feels like our days are ruling us, not the other way around. We have this huge to-do list and just “not enough hours in the day” to comfortably leave work at the office and go home for the day.

But what if I told you there was a way to get more done during the day … in the same amount of time you’re working with now.

It doesn’t require huge life changes or a large commitment. It’s simply creating three new, small habits during your work day. All of which revolve around getting rid of distractions.

Three ways to get more done during the day: (more…)

The Key to Successful Self-Improvement

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The term “self” improvement alone is enough to make us believe it’s all about the individual. If I want to work on self-improvement, it has to be all about me and how I change what I’m doing … right?

Maybe not.

According to a new “self-affirmation theory,” when we try to tackle self-improvement on our own, our egos often get in the way and prevent us from making the progress we really need.

I like to think of it as a blind spot. I can’t see my own blind spot, but the people around me can. And it’s the same with self-improvement.

Self-improvement can’t be self-diagnosed. Often times, we need help from the people closest to us.

The Harvard Business Review, believes the key to getting rid of our blind spots involves building a “self-improvement team.” According to them, there are five ways to build this kind of team. I want to match each point with personal application steps so you can begin to build your own self-improvement team. (more…)

The Currency of Accomplishment: Defining the Win

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I love telling stories about my first coaching client. He was in his 20s, a millionaire, and was building his second business. He was an accomplished guy. The thing I loved about coaching this guy was that he didn’t hire me to help him make more money or become more successful. He hired me to help him grow. The currency of his accomplishment wasn’t money, it was excellence, innovation, and growth. Money was a natural consequence of the work he was doing, but it wasn’t his end goal. He was pursuing more than a dollar amount; he was pursuing greatness. Don’t get me wrong, money is a good thing! I’m simply saying that being accomplished means different things to different people. If you want to be accomplished, you must first determine what that means for you. (more…)

Assignment vs. Call: Understanding the Voice of God

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The last two years of my life have been nothing short of incredible. I’ve entered a new season of my life, started a new ministry, and seen exponential growth. God has been so faithful. The new relationships I’ve built and the experiences I’ve had have taught me more than I ever thought possible. But even healthy and welcome transitions come with challenges. The greatest challenge for me was the uncertainty and the upheaval; the routines I had built for twenty years were shifting. That can be tough! My way through it was simple: I allowed the call of God to steady me. I knew that my ministry was not over; instead, my assignment was growing. The consistency of my call steadied me in the face of transition.

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